My apologies for taking so long to post your message to me. I've been ill and away from my computer. As you can see, I have now posted it below. You'll also no doubt will note that I have removed any personal or geographic identifiers so as to preserve and present the essence of your argument without calumniating other institutions or persons.
The tenor of your message and that of the Youtube video prove that you are a mother whose heart has been broken - and to a very significant degree found life itself rendered heavy and burdensome by the cross that has been laid upon your shoulders - and you need, desire, want and demand that someone hear and acknowledge the truth and pain of your experience. I have heard your song sung by mothers of all ages, faiths (or not) and stations in life before and you offer a powerful counterpoint to those who do not want to believe that pain and grief is a reality in everyone's life. I thank you for sharing your message as I thank you too for the video.
Barbara, I sincerely and prayerfully hope that I have honored your request in my presentation of your story. Ensuring that this controversy is addressed in a manner that respects the rights of all concerned is the first step in hearing God's voice echo amidst the din of our daily crosses, duties and blessings. No one in this tragedy wanted the outcome that befell you. Everyone acted in good conscience and desired nothing more than to do what is 'good' and 'right' in these difficult cases. No one needs to be flagellated because they fell short. Even when the price is written in the currency of a mother's broken hopes we must all admit that we all in our turn fail. Until the day of the parousia, this will always be. I hope you understand that.
But I know too that you believe that your voice has not been heard, respected or acknowledged. Just because you sing the sorrowful blues of a grieving mother, which nay seem 'discordant' to some peoples ears, does not negate your melody's place in God's choir. You deserve to be heard. I have tried to help you do just that.
I pray you be given peace through the intercession of that little saint you carried within your womb - for sinless and perfect in God's sight she most certainly is numbered among the celestial choirs that praise and glorify God. May the seasons of Advent & Christmas unite you with Mary as your two children live together until the day Christ's return in triumph. On that day you will enjoy the fullness of love when your are reunited with her again.
Dear Fr. Moyle,
Several years ago I had a baby with a genetic condition. Most children born with the condition have serious and life threatening brain and heart anomalies. My baby did not.
I accepted that she would have limitations; she might never talk and might not walk for many years, but it was not my place as her mother to judge whether her life had sufficient "value" according to the norms of society, but only to lover and care for her.
At the age of 80 days, my daughter had respiratory distress and was rushed to the childrens hospital in
My quest was to understand, "how did this awful thing happen? ". We always had a good relationship with the staff, were omnipresent and made it clear that we did not want our daughter to receive futile care. I research hospital policies, government policies, health laws, and constitutional rights. I had two meetings with the UN High Commissioner's Office for Human Rights. I published my daughter's story in two prominent medical journals and spoke at health and ethics conferences across the country.
Finally I learned the truth of what happened. It began when
The doctors did not kill my baby, the Catholic Church did. The genetic counselors tell me that "almost everyone aborts" for prenatal detection of conditions related to disability. This speaks again to the standard set by the church.
If I send my children out to play when it is 30 below zero with no coats and they freeze to death, I would not claim to be innocent of conscious murder. When you forcibly remove a 22 week old fetus from the womb, gasping and sputtering while it attempts to breathe, you cannot possibly claim that you are not guilty of conscious murder.
May God have mercy on the souls of all of those involved in this sacrilege of human life.
How can you not see the value? How can you claim this child's life to be worthless?